The Trust Factor

Face it! We've ALL lied before in our lives whether it was to avoid drama or told so called "white lie" that seemed to be harmless. But lies are in fact very harmful when you really think about it. I lied to my nephew when he was younger and told him he was white because hes very fair skinned and he was young and looked up to me and that's why I took advantage of the situation. A Very Bad Move because for some years he really thought he was white and I felt terrible about the seemingly harmless lie I played on him.

Nowadays, I pride myself in telling the truth although sometimes I come off as being rude and outta line, I really don't mean to be. I have to learn to articulate my words better so not to offend people I care about the most. So if you ask me something and I stole, its because I'm thinking of a way to say something in a appropriate way. I tell on myself a lot, ask my best friend Brittany. She knows I cant hold water (about myself) to save my life. What can I say I'm a open book ready to be read!

I also care what other people think about me to a certain extent. That also makes me tell the truth and I dont ever wanna offend others by lying to them. By being a former liar lol I can see right through liars. I tell ya, it certainly puts a strain on relationships when people tell lies. If you dont care for me to know your business, dont tell me, simple as that! Sure I might be a little offended but its your business not mine.

And we all know who the father of the lie is-Satan the Devil. You don't wanna be tied with him right!?!?!? Well STOP LYING ALREADY! Jehovah God hates liars! That's a big burden to bear and a horrible position to be in. Take note people and get it together!

The Meaning of LOVE

LOVE is defined as the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. But I feel LOVE can be ones own interpretation of it. To me LOVE is ACTIONS. Making sacrifices great and small, showing loyalty no matter what the cost, always willing to give whether its of ones self or materially, being encouraging and supportive even if you and your friend or partner doesn't share the same goals, always being honest and open with each other and lastly being forgiving.

On another note however, LOVE can bring a lot of pain and regret to ones life.Leaving you emotionally sick and feeling abandoned when the one that once said they LOVE you doesn't show the qualities that I displayed up above. Or they, in your opinion, just never loved you. But even when I reflect back and think that maybe my ex didn't LOVE me, I might be wrong. Just because I LOVE a certain way and want it to be reciprocated back that same way,doesn't mean it will happen that way. A very sad reality but hey what can you do *shrugs*

There was little doubt that my first LOVE loved me back in a gf/bf kind of way.I knew he loved me as a friend of course but I wasn't sure if he thought the LOVE was deeper then that. But then he took his shirt off. Yes I said took his shirt off. Guys look for excuses to take they shirt off but not my 1st LOVE. He was very insecure with his body. Very minor thing to do you might say but it was very major in my situation because he never took his shirt off in front of ANYONE. No matter how I expressed to him how sexy I knew his body to be, he never would let me see that region of his body. But 1 day there was a strain on our relationship and off comes the shirt in the heat of all the issues pressing us at that moment. And I began to cry because this was a momentous part of our relationship. He shared a part of him that he NEVER shared with anyone else. This action meant he trusted me and that he LOVED me.
LOVE can be so many things but at the end of the day, LOVE conquers all and never fails.

Directed to SOME of you that wear Lace fronts

First and foremost I need you all to know I have nothing against lance fronts.Its a great invention if you ask me but I am offended by some of you that obviously don't know what to do with them.Some (really more then some)of you are wearing them in a crazy fashion.You definitely can tell who have had long hair and who haven't.I think some ladies think you can do sooooo many styles with long hair but in actuality-there's not that many styles you can wear ur hair in. And ladies with these wigs come to find that out when they wear these wigs cuz they be lookin like a hot mess!Loose ponytails on the SIDE of their heads,extra baby hair on they face to make em seem like they exotic or mixed (im guessing)and loads of products in they head shining.
Me personally, Ive had long hair all my life and you can curl it,wear it straight,wear a ponytail or crimp it.Nothing more nothing less.You can style shorter hair with more styles and shorter hair seems to be the in thing for the last couple of years.So as I said before,theres nothing wrong with lace fronts but you may wanna save yourself the embarrassment and every bodies speed dial to call the fashion police and wear ur own hair and get it styled in a hot summer look.

Black Folks Need To Change The Way They Think

So there's a couple of things that offends me about black folks.Im sure other races would offend me with ignorance too but I dont really hang out with other races so Imma just talk about my people.

I love to slap the person who made up the term good hair.Everybody says it and its so flippin ignorant but I cant correct people when they say it cause its too many people to correct.I hate hearing it.Its another put down for being black.People think good hair is straight or curly hair that is really closer to white people textured hair.It makes me feel like the closer to white we are the better we look and thats not the message we should be sending out.Whats wrong with coarse hair.Yes its hard to comb out but the look of it is beautiful to me.I wish I could rock it but my face and head shape wont allow for such a style.But alot of sistas of color look great with natural hair instead of pressed hair.

Now to get on the men.Every time I hear a man say "Man she BAD" they are referring to a more lighter complexion women with long hair.She's usually (in my eyes anyway) a plan jane looking girl with no excitement about her whatsoever.No Im not gay but I think women are very beautiful creatures in all shapes,sizes and color.But a lot of men want almost white women.YES Im light skinned but I still know ignorance when I see it.Music videos remind me of it quit often.Black people when are we gonna love and accept black folks for what they are no matter what the complexion?

Save yourself the embarrassment

People who lie usually have to follow that initial lie with several other lies to build up this big fake story.Why put yourself through this when the other person is looking at you thinking damn you hecka lying to me and Im feeling embarrassed for you because I know your not telling the truth. But at the same time I feel foolish for acting like I believe you because it makes me feel stupid when I know better.It also makes me think that you dont think much about me.Do you really think Im that gullible!? And down the line they forget their lies and you have to question them about it.Silly Rabbit!

Some people are just sad because they whole life is a lie and they begin to believe in the lies they tell.Either way it goes,Im not biting my tongue anymore and I have to be ready to see who values my friendship and or relationship because after I call you out, relationships will be tested.Thats funny how things work out!The liar will be made because Im calling them out but I should be the one mad since Im being lied to but whatever.